Finally, day three. Just a note, first, tho. I only have pictures of buildings and cityscapes. We are supposed to get a CD of the partypics which will have more pics of interest to those who commented their requests.
We split up on Sunday. At 10:00am, Mimi came for Super Giant Killer and they hailed a cab and whisked away to American Girl Place on 5th Avenue. Mimi had made a deal with her that if she practiced exceptional finishing school manners she would be rewarded with a spree there and she really was a sparkling little angel the whole time. She got to bring Kit with her and they got matching letter jackets and Kit got some Converse hi-tops and crazy socks. That is sacrilege to hardcore AG freaks because she is dressing 'out of time', but SGK doesn't care. Then they spent the day getting hair and nails done on Park Avenue.
Meanwhile, YHWH and I took C. F. Kats on the Uptown Loop of the sightseeing bus. We got to see all the ornate French Renaissance buildings and Harlem. It was a nice relaxing trip of about 2.5 hours. About the only thing we really did that day was visit the MoMA and we shopped in a couple of little boutiques and an international grocery. MoMa is pretty pricey at $20 each, but every work in there is by a 'namebrand' artist, and most of them are the biggies like Starry Night and the Campbell's Soup Cans and Persistence of Memory, etc.
Then came the great hour. Time to get dressed for the Main Event - Wedding Part Three. The second iterations of the fancy dresses were donned and I put on my average looking gray suit, but I did wear a red tie with eyeglasses on it. Only later did I realize that I was to have worn a dark suit to a wedding. No one made a big deal of it, though. I made the fatal mistake of so many honest men and fell for the question, "How do I look?" No, actually, I was just trying to bring levity to the rather tense three-people-dressing-in-a-small-space scenario. So, I said that C.F. Kats' blouse made her look like a pirate and that YHWH's dress looked like something Mrs. Roper would wear. They weren't amused. But they were just ravishing anyway.
The third wedding was in NYAC itself, so we got there with no hitches. This ceremony was still not something to which I am accustomed. I don't know if it was because it was Catholic or Argentine or what. Evenso, I'm very tolerant of other cultures and customs - I even went to a lesbian wedding back in the early 90s before it was cool (or legal) - so I'm not judging it negatively. One thing I noticed was that there was still more speechifying. The father of the bride got up and read off a list of names of people who came all the way from Dubai and Argentina again just like the rehearsal dinner and then we all applauded. I was kind of thinking that if I wanted to know who was there, I would just go look at the guest book. Actually, we applauded lots of things at the urging of the priest. I'd never heard of wedding applause and it did make the solemn proceedings I'm used to seem a little riotous at times. Of course, SGK did a great job strewing flower petals around in the wake of the bride's steps. There were also lay readings by family members and I'm not used to that, either. That whole thing was pretty painless, though.
The hard part came when the ceremony was over and we had yet another open bar with cheese and hors d'oeuvres (I hope I got that right, I'm too lazy to look it up). I say hard because I was starving again having only had a knish from a stand in the street for nourishment all day and I was waiting in line for my gin and tonic and cheese when I was summoned away for family photos. Endless permutations of "now just the uncles", "let's have everyone over five feet", "all people born on Wednesdays!" were assembled for photos and each lineup was taken with about six cameras and two or three lighting scenarios each. So I had to endure all of that without alcohol assist. Speaking of which, once I had a drink in hand, I let C.F.Kats have a taste hoping that it would discourage her from partaking too soon. She was suitably disgusted by the taste, so hopefully it worked. The coolest part of this phase was when YHWH's uncle (the same from the previous night's speech) sat down next to the piano player, who had just played "Ode to Joy" and "Jesu, Joy of Man's Desiring" moments before, and taught him to play "Boomer Sooner".
At this point another unusual development occured. We were all asked to sit down at our tables for dinner (again, most receptions I've been to do not have dinner). But the food was not forthcoming. And once again, it was about 7:00 and I was starving. So, we all sat down and the dj started playing some anthemic Kool and the Gang or Raydio song and he belts out these booming introductions of the parents of the couple and each of the flower girls. Kind of had the feel of one of those pro wrestling introductions. And then the dj takes over the whole reception and starts playing dance music and we're all supposed to dance. OK. We're starving. Doesn't the dancing come after the dinner? But I'm cool with that. I've had two drinks and some champagne.
Everyone knew I was shy and reserved and would mope over at my table with Big Time Book Editor, but since that was what's expected of me, I did the opposite. I grabbed C. F. Kats and we danced the odd tangoish dance of people who can't dance, then I goofed around with SGK, then I danced with YHWH's sister, then I danced with YHWH's stepmom, and finally I did a Saturday Night Fever routine with YHWH when "Stayin' Alive" came on. Killer was all over that dance floor and in fact, the whole night she wouldn't have anything to do with her family. She wouldn't talk to us or dance with us or anything. She wanted Book Editor and family to adopt her. We did get to see some tipsy dancers fall over, tho, and C. F. Kats got some sage advice from a disgruntled woman hiding in the bathroom from her husband.
We finally got to eat appetizers at 8:30 - shrimp on a bed of some really gross cold grey noodles. No thanks. Then the entrees came out at 9:30. Filet again! And still no bacon. It was ok, but nothing to write home about. Dessert was wedding cake and it was pretty standard fare, even though the couple was too prim to smash the cake in each others faces. Bad sign...
So that was it. Final thoughts - it wasn't that bad. Once I accepted the absurdity of the entire enterprise and just let go, it was fine. I got rave reviews again, this time from the top, so I felt pretty good about it. I even got a verbal invitation to the brother-of-the-bride's wedding in Minnesota in May.
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Thursday, October 26, 2006
Wednesday, October 25, 2006
Saturday In The Park
On Saturday, we didn't have any committments until 8:00pm when we were all to meet up at Tavern on the Green for the rehearsal dinner, even though the charming couple had already been married twice already and a rehearsal seemed a moot point. But we must do the proper thing if we are to do anything at all.
So YHWH and I decided to take the girls on one of the double decker sightseeing buses which prowl around the city. We weighed several activity options at first, but we thought this would be a comfortable, safe way for them to see the whole island and pick out things they liked that we could go back to. First we had to navigate our sortie from the NYAC. It is possible for one to wear humane clothing and still enter and exit the building. I called the day before we left to be sure that a secret exit passage existed and brought my tennis shoes and jeans for our daily activities. What you do is take the special secret atheltic elevator down to the third floor and then leave the elevator lobby and amble down a hallway until you find a stairwell marked 'C'. Then take the stairs down to the first level and you can go out the back door. They make it a hassle, but I was glad to have the option.
We had some good bagels to start the day and then made the short walk down 7th Ave to Times Square in order to catch the tour bus. It was very nice and crisp - upper 40s - to start out and we made a brisk walk to several tour stops in order to get the best spot on the bus. C. F. Kats appeared overwhelmed by the hustle and bustle of Times Square, so we were reassured in our decision to go easy at first. It was almost like LA oddly enough. At Times Square we saw a car commercial being filmed. Then down by the Flatiron Building we saw Will Smith and crew filming (I later learned) I Am Legend. We got to see some burned out vehicles and trash and all around disasterish looking sets. We got to see a stunt as well where the crew spun a new Mustang around in the middle of the street; saw a bluescreen on the hood, tho, so I guess the zombies will be added later. And still further on we saw a 'model shoot'; some kind of ad I guess. Our only departures were a walk down to Battery Park for a view of the Statue of Liberty and a promenade around the South Street Seaport.
Finally, we got off the bus at St. Patricks Cathedral and walked up 5th Avenue. This walk was like the scenes you see in movies as it was just packed with people. C.F. Kats wasn't too happy with that either. After a quick lunch at Trump Plaza we went on up 5th to Central Park Zoo to see the penguins and polar bears. Finally, it was time to head back to NYAC to dress for Tavern on the Green. But, on the way there we passed Jennifer Anniston and a couple of friends. After their first day in NYC, SGK thought she could stay forever and C.F. Kats was certain she couldn't.
We got back to the room with about an hour to spare and began the frenzy to 'get ready' for the dinner. I wore khaki pants, a black dress shirt and a black and tan checked coat with a 15 cent skinny electric blue tie from a thrift store complete with my monogram in gold. YHWH and C. F. Kats had fancy party dresses and SGK had a pink and black velvet number. We did clean up good, I must admit. We were told to take a cab down to Tavern and not to be late. However, just before we leave the room, we get a call from YHWH's folks that 'you'll never get a cab'. We found this odd that the swankiest part of NYC would want for cabs on Saturday night, but we prepared to walk the six blocks through Central Park. So we get down to the lobby and the bellboy says there are tons of cabs (like we thought). But then we see YHWH's brothers waiting down there for their wives. YHWH mentioned we were going to grab a cab and see them there and they began scoffing at her for taking a '20 minute cab ride instead of a 10 minute walk'. It's pretty sad to watch that family operate. They must be pretty insecure if they think it makes them look macho to goad their older sister into walking through Central Park at night with her children in tow. So we walked. It was a nice walk, tho. Guess who we saw milling around the bar when we walked in? The brothers and their wives - they took a cab because the wives wouldn't deign to walk through the park. Pretty sad.
So it's 8:00pm and we have the open bar with cheese in the Rafters Room first. This was the mingle portion of the night and I was forced into small talk, which I hate. The room we inhabited was long and narrow and replete with mirors and twinkling chandeliers. It was quite tacky in an out-of-touch Victorian sort of way. Here also one of the odd phenomena of the whole weekend began to play out. For some reason, the whole weekend was focused on where everyone was from. Generally, I don't mind this and in fact, I put a lot of stake in where people are from. However, in this case, we practically wore scarlet panhandles on our shirts as all anyone could talk to us about was OU football and cows and flatness. The whole room was full of either New Yorkers or Argentinians and that's all they could come up with. And that is one of my lifelong peeves with New York and foreigners in general (frequently said of Americans abroad, no doubt) is that they purport to be so superior because of where they live (in the case of NYCers) or because they can speak 10 languages (in the case of the Argentines) and yet they are so insular and sadly ignorant of anywhere but where they live or where they vacation. It was like a quiz: "Where are you from?" "Oklahoma." "Oh. Football and oil, right?" "Ding! You got me there! Ten points for you!" I wanted to start saying, "Argentina - ass kicked in the Falklands, right?" or "200% inflation, right?" or "Gunning people down in soccer stadiums, right?" But you know, you can't win when you do that.
So, I had only eaten a dog from one of the street vendors all day and here it was 9:00. My two Tanqueray and tonics on an empty stomach were getting to me, but I stood fast. We finally were seated a little after 9:00. Blessed be, there was a roll there waiting for me. We were seated as a family plus YHWH's sister and a couple from -- Canada. Somebody up there likes me. No, really, they were about the only real people we met even though they didn't know anything about Oklahoma, except that Frank Keating was in the guy's law firm. I was sure we would get to eat then, but no, there had to be speeches made and apparently it's bad form to eat while people are speechifying. One speech was great, tho. YHWH's uncle was raised the son of a doctor in a medium-sized town in Oklahoma, went to military school, was in a fraternity, and has held high-powered jobs in Boston, Washington, and Los Angeles. He's no stranger to these things. So, after all these speeches about Argentina and French people from Dubai and on and on, he gets up and makes an unscheduled speech. It was awesome. To paraphrase, he said, "All this talk about foreign places is well and good. But the bride has chosen to become an Okie and we welcome her into our hearts and homes!" All us Okies (except YHWH's immediates) let out a, whoop and the bride's family got a big kick out of it. He really brought the house down.
So, we sat through about 10 trips down memory lane before the first course came out - at 9:50. It was a large bowl with three small raviolis in it that reminded me of our Franco-American lunches at daycare. We got to choose whether we wanted duck or filet mignon for our entree which was served at 10:30pm. I went for the filet which was definitely the right call because everyone who got the duck said it was horrible and could not even be cut much less chewed. I was kind of bummed about the filet because it came without the nice bacon wrap for added flavor. But hey, what do you want for $175? Later, our Canadian tablemate let on that Tavern isn't known for it's food. This I concurred with as I took my first bite of half-frozen strudel for dessert. But those gin and tonics were really, really good.
So at a little before midnight we got up to leave. After I paid the $8 to get our coats back, I noticed that there was a line of about 30 people to get cabs. So we decided to brave it and walk back, although we went down Central Park West (aka 8th Ave) instead of through the Park. We saw a few street people, but it was safe.
By the way I got rave reviews for my dashing look and charming personality. No, I'm not kidding. I just said I hate going to stuff like that, I didn't say I wasn't good at it!
And that was day two.
So YHWH and I decided to take the girls on one of the double decker sightseeing buses which prowl around the city. We weighed several activity options at first, but we thought this would be a comfortable, safe way for them to see the whole island and pick out things they liked that we could go back to. First we had to navigate our sortie from the NYAC. It is possible for one to wear humane clothing and still enter and exit the building. I called the day before we left to be sure that a secret exit passage existed and brought my tennis shoes and jeans for our daily activities. What you do is take the special secret atheltic elevator down to the third floor and then leave the elevator lobby and amble down a hallway until you find a stairwell marked 'C'. Then take the stairs down to the first level and you can go out the back door. They make it a hassle, but I was glad to have the option.
We had some good bagels to start the day and then made the short walk down 7th Ave to Times Square in order to catch the tour bus. It was very nice and crisp - upper 40s - to start out and we made a brisk walk to several tour stops in order to get the best spot on the bus. C. F. Kats appeared overwhelmed by the hustle and bustle of Times Square, so we were reassured in our decision to go easy at first. It was almost like LA oddly enough. At Times Square we saw a car commercial being filmed. Then down by the Flatiron Building we saw Will Smith and crew filming (I later learned) I Am Legend. We got to see some burned out vehicles and trash and all around disasterish looking sets. We got to see a stunt as well where the crew spun a new Mustang around in the middle of the street; saw a bluescreen on the hood, tho, so I guess the zombies will be added later. And still further on we saw a 'model shoot'; some kind of ad I guess. Our only departures were a walk down to Battery Park for a view of the Statue of Liberty and a promenade around the South Street Seaport.
Finally, we got off the bus at St. Patricks Cathedral and walked up 5th Avenue. This walk was like the scenes you see in movies as it was just packed with people. C.F. Kats wasn't too happy with that either. After a quick lunch at Trump Plaza we went on up 5th to Central Park Zoo to see the penguins and polar bears. Finally, it was time to head back to NYAC to dress for Tavern on the Green. But, on the way there we passed Jennifer Anniston and a couple of friends. After their first day in NYC, SGK thought she could stay forever and C.F. Kats was certain she couldn't.
We got back to the room with about an hour to spare and began the frenzy to 'get ready' for the dinner. I wore khaki pants, a black dress shirt and a black and tan checked coat with a 15 cent skinny electric blue tie from a thrift store complete with my monogram in gold. YHWH and C. F. Kats had fancy party dresses and SGK had a pink and black velvet number. We did clean up good, I must admit. We were told to take a cab down to Tavern and not to be late. However, just before we leave the room, we get a call from YHWH's folks that 'you'll never get a cab'. We found this odd that the swankiest part of NYC would want for cabs on Saturday night, but we prepared to walk the six blocks through Central Park. So we get down to the lobby and the bellboy says there are tons of cabs (like we thought). But then we see YHWH's brothers waiting down there for their wives. YHWH mentioned we were going to grab a cab and see them there and they began scoffing at her for taking a '20 minute cab ride instead of a 10 minute walk'. It's pretty sad to watch that family operate. They must be pretty insecure if they think it makes them look macho to goad their older sister into walking through Central Park at night with her children in tow. So we walked. It was a nice walk, tho. Guess who we saw milling around the bar when we walked in? The brothers and their wives - they took a cab because the wives wouldn't deign to walk through the park. Pretty sad.
So it's 8:00pm and we have the open bar with cheese in the Rafters Room first. This was the mingle portion of the night and I was forced into small talk, which I hate. The room we inhabited was long and narrow and replete with mirors and twinkling chandeliers. It was quite tacky in an out-of-touch Victorian sort of way. Here also one of the odd phenomena of the whole weekend began to play out. For some reason, the whole weekend was focused on where everyone was from. Generally, I don't mind this and in fact, I put a lot of stake in where people are from. However, in this case, we practically wore scarlet panhandles on our shirts as all anyone could talk to us about was OU football and cows and flatness. The whole room was full of either New Yorkers or Argentinians and that's all they could come up with. And that is one of my lifelong peeves with New York and foreigners in general (frequently said of Americans abroad, no doubt) is that they purport to be so superior because of where they live (in the case of NYCers) or because they can speak 10 languages (in the case of the Argentines) and yet they are so insular and sadly ignorant of anywhere but where they live or where they vacation. It was like a quiz: "Where are you from?" "Oklahoma." "Oh. Football and oil, right?" "Ding! You got me there! Ten points for you!" I wanted to start saying, "Argentina - ass kicked in the Falklands, right?" or "200% inflation, right?" or "Gunning people down in soccer stadiums, right?" But you know, you can't win when you do that.
So, I had only eaten a dog from one of the street vendors all day and here it was 9:00. My two Tanqueray and tonics on an empty stomach were getting to me, but I stood fast. We finally were seated a little after 9:00. Blessed be, there was a roll there waiting for me. We were seated as a family plus YHWH's sister and a couple from -- Canada. Somebody up there likes me. No, really, they were about the only real people we met even though they didn't know anything about Oklahoma, except that Frank Keating was in the guy's law firm. I was sure we would get to eat then, but no, there had to be speeches made and apparently it's bad form to eat while people are speechifying. One speech was great, tho. YHWH's uncle was raised the son of a doctor in a medium-sized town in Oklahoma, went to military school, was in a fraternity, and has held high-powered jobs in Boston, Washington, and Los Angeles. He's no stranger to these things. So, after all these speeches about Argentina and French people from Dubai and on and on, he gets up and makes an unscheduled speech. It was awesome. To paraphrase, he said, "All this talk about foreign places is well and good. But the bride has chosen to become an Okie and we welcome her into our hearts and homes!" All us Okies (except YHWH's immediates) let out a, whoop and the bride's family got a big kick out of it. He really brought the house down.
So, we sat through about 10 trips down memory lane before the first course came out - at 9:50. It was a large bowl with three small raviolis in it that reminded me of our Franco-American lunches at daycare. We got to choose whether we wanted duck or filet mignon for our entree which was served at 10:30pm. I went for the filet which was definitely the right call because everyone who got the duck said it was horrible and could not even be cut much less chewed. I was kind of bummed about the filet because it came without the nice bacon wrap for added flavor. But hey, what do you want for $175? Later, our Canadian tablemate let on that Tavern isn't known for it's food. This I concurred with as I took my first bite of half-frozen strudel for dessert. But those gin and tonics were really, really good.
So at a little before midnight we got up to leave. After I paid the $8 to get our coats back, I noticed that there was a line of about 30 people to get cabs. So we decided to brave it and walk back, although we went down Central Park West (aka 8th Ave) instead of through the Park. We saw a few street people, but it was safe.
By the way I got rave reviews for my dashing look and charming personality. No, I'm not kidding. I just said I hate going to stuff like that, I didn't say I wasn't good at it!
And that was day two.
Monday, October 23, 2006
Gonna Take That Big White Bird
We are back, the home come heroes. As a small glimpse of how it went, let me first explain that I was not able to update because the luxurious climes in which we were perched charged 75 cents per minute for internet access and even if we'd brought our laptop, we would've been charged 1.00 per minute. I'm sorry, I simply cannot type fast enough to keep it under a monthly paycheck.
I know this is going to be a long post and reading it will be something like watching the much cliched slideshow of someone else's vacation, so you may want to stop here...
The day before we left, we were scurrying around trying to complete our wardrobes, but we finally got it together. Just as I was going to sleep on Thursday, I remembered my last post about my sister's wedding being a true community affair and I realized that this one was, too. Tex loaned me her garment bag; Mr. Tex graciously surrendered his overcoat; Rawdog offered loafers to smooth out the comfy flying attire/easy checkpoint removal/dress code approved footwear problem; Purple Bunny offered sturdy suitcases; Overcoat prepped us on easy airport transitions and transportation and Adjective Queen even gave us a ride to the airport on her day off! And everyone wished us well. So thanks, for being such a nice community everybody!
So, first thing in the morning on Friday, we reenacted the frantic family-to-the-airport scene from Home Alone, tho on a much smaller scale. We were packed the night before, but you still always have those little things here and there; it came off pretty well, tho. I jumped up and quickly got ready and heated some water for instant coffee and oatmeal. Then I helped Super Giant Killer get dressed - brown pin-striped suit pants with gold belt, brown spandex shirt, and pearls - and we just ate breakfast and watched the frenzy reach crescendo until -knock, knock - the Queen was at the door. We got all loaded and pulled away but before we got to the main road, I had to stop. I am in no way OCD, but I am a 'checker' (it's because our house was broken into when I was little and I have never really gotten over it). In all the flurry, I couldn't remember turning off the stove when I heated the water and I had to go back and make sure. The Queen was so nice, although I know I will never live it down.
We got there in plenty of time and got through security just fine. But it soon became obvious to me that I was now old and the times have a-changed. One of the first things I noticed while watching our plane being prepared was that most of the ground crew looked like they had just returned to work from shooting a Kid Rock video and still others may have been at an X-Games event. Where once I watched guys in smart service-type uniforms waving their fluorescent signal lights, I now saw dudes in baggy pants, dreads, and Phish t-shirts whipping around in baggage trucks and refueling planes. Biased on my part to be sure, as here I was complaining about the dress code to which I had to defer, but I still say I'd rather it look like Air Force personnel were prepping my plane than wiggers.
Likewise, I would like to think some former USAF guys are flying the plane. Our 'equipment' out of OKC was one of those Embraer RJ things (aka a flying pencil) and it was full and cramped. I hate those little things. So, we're getting ready to leave and our pilot gets on and he sounds like he's 15. He tells us he's Matt and our co-pilot is Chris. I'm sorry, 'Matt and Chris' sound like two dudes cruising around in a tricked out Mustang, not flying me to Chicago. I want 'Robert and Edward' or better yet, 'Walter and Jack'.
So we start our takeoff and just as we get airborne, SGK squeals, "This is awesome! I've never been this happy in my life!" So, that was worth it. Then the flight attendant announces snacks can be purchased, including cashews for $2. SGK is deathly allergic to cashews. So I turned to YHWH, "did you bring her epipen?" Neither one of us brought it. We sort of panicked because she could die before they could land the plane if she'd gotten a small whiff of cashew dust. So YHWH asked the attendant if she could refrain from serving them, and she didn't want to do it, but she said she would (she even admitted frankly that since they are something the airline makes money on, she isn't allowed to not sell them). It's American Eagle by the way, for anyone who needs to know that they still serve things that can kill people. When we switched to American Airlines in Chicago, we told the crew and they laughed and said they quit serving allergens a long time ago and thought it was stupid for American Eagle to serve them. By the way, on the last leg of our return trip we were back on American Eagle and we told them ahead of time about the allergy and the attendant refused to refrain from selling cashews and said, "We've already told people they can have them! We can't tell them they can't have them now!" Once again, folks that's American Eagle. So, we just begged people around us to not eat their cashews if at all possible and thankfully the three people who purchased a snack pack agreed not to eat their cashews.
Once in Chicago, we had 10 minutes to change planes, which was great. But upon arrival at our gate we learned that rain in the east had cause a ripple effect in the traffic pattern and we were pushed back almost two hours. No problem. You can kill a few hours in the airport. But then we get this phone call. YHWH's folks were letting us know to come straight to their room for a champagne and cheese meet-and-greet in their suite so that the two families can get acquainted. Excuse me, aren't we already going to two weddings, a dinner and a reception? Besides, we already had plans to take the girls to a theme restaurant like Hard Rock or Jekyll and Hyde that first night. So we kicked our dread up a notch there in Chicago.
Eventually, we get to board our flight to LaGuardia, but since the traffic jam still existed on the east coast and an arrival needed our gate, we got to sit on the apron for about an hour and a half waiting to taxi! In front of us was a middle-aged couple from Milwacky who were apparently making their first trip without the kids and their first big weekend getaway to New York. What great fortune befell them as they found themselves seated next to a blowhard who, though not a New yorker himself, knew everything about the city. The Gotham Bloviate regaled them with tales of the wonderous nightlife, rundowns on each and every neighborhood and what to do there. On and on for the four hours it took to get to NYC. All the while the corduroy sport-coated male kept insturcting his secretary/wife to "write that down" whenever the Gotham Bloviate imparted tell of a particularly shiny gem. The Gotham Bloviate was not actually that onoxious by nature, thankfully, and what struck me most was the apparent unpreparedness of this seemingly uptight couple. Do they not have libraries in Milwacky? Or bookstores? Was it that hard to find a guidebook? I thought they might have just been playing nice, but they seemed really uneducated on the subject.
We finally made our approach to LaGuardia about 2.5 hours late, but the remnants of that bad weather were still lingering and our MD-80 was thrown about quite a bit. Even I, who likes rollercoasters and flying, had to lean back, close my eyes and clinch my stomach. We had a glimmer of hope tho, because we were sure the delay made us too late for the soiree. I mean, it was 5:30 and we still had to get over to Midtown in the middle of Friday rush hour. Meanwhile the elite members of my wife's family were attending the only one of the three weddings that 'counted' - the ceremony conducted by the family priest up in Westchester County.
We thought by arriving at our exclusive digs at 7:00 we would've missed the event, but no, they were just arriving themselves. I got through it OK because SGK kind of took over the event by regaling the Argentine Contingent (the bride's familia) with her knowledge of the Pampas and gauchos and also running through two of her karate workouts. As I said, we had promised the girls a trip to a theme restaurant, but YHWH's brother invited us to 'a little Italian place' for dinner and we were much encouraged to go along by the grownups. So, YHWH and I went with her sibs and the bride's to the home of the $30 bowl of spaghetti. In case you're wondering, yours truly did step up to the plate and charm the three people at the table previously unknown to him. He was quickly able to discern their passions and vocations and was able to converse across a wide breadth of topics. And dinner cost $454.
When you go to New York you learn quickly that you will be constantly fleeced of your cash. I'm really not a cheapskate, but it does get burdensome after a while. We had to pay to get our bags to the street at the airport. We had to tip the driver who took us to the New York Athletic Club, we had to tip the bellhop to take them in and the guy who took them to our room. At this 'little place' we had to tip the maitre d', then the wine guy and of course the waitress and the bathroom attendant and the coat check lady. I was constantly handing out dollar bills the whole weekend.
After dinner we collected the kids and returned to our little room. First let me say I am very grateful to the bride's family for putting us up for the weekend. The room didn't cost me a dime so I'm not complaining. But I was shocked that the rooms were so small. We had two double beds with about a foot on either side and a foot between them. There was not much decor to speak of and if I had been knocked unconscious out on the street and awakened in that room I would have guessed I was in a Clarion or Best Western. Not what I would've expected for something in the $400 a night range off Central Park. But like I said, the price was right.
So that was our first night. I'm shutting up now.
I know this is going to be a long post and reading it will be something like watching the much cliched slideshow of someone else's vacation, so you may want to stop here...
The day before we left, we were scurrying around trying to complete our wardrobes, but we finally got it together. Just as I was going to sleep on Thursday, I remembered my last post about my sister's wedding being a true community affair and I realized that this one was, too. Tex loaned me her garment bag; Mr. Tex graciously surrendered his overcoat; Rawdog offered loafers to smooth out the comfy flying attire/easy checkpoint removal/dress code approved footwear problem; Purple Bunny offered sturdy suitcases; Overcoat prepped us on easy airport transitions and transportation and Adjective Queen even gave us a ride to the airport on her day off! And everyone wished us well. So thanks, for being such a nice community everybody!
So, first thing in the morning on Friday, we reenacted the frantic family-to-the-airport scene from Home Alone, tho on a much smaller scale. We were packed the night before, but you still always have those little things here and there; it came off pretty well, tho. I jumped up and quickly got ready and heated some water for instant coffee and oatmeal. Then I helped Super Giant Killer get dressed - brown pin-striped suit pants with gold belt, brown spandex shirt, and pearls - and we just ate breakfast and watched the frenzy reach crescendo until -knock, knock - the Queen was at the door. We got all loaded and pulled away but before we got to the main road, I had to stop. I am in no way OCD, but I am a 'checker' (it's because our house was broken into when I was little and I have never really gotten over it). In all the flurry, I couldn't remember turning off the stove when I heated the water and I had to go back and make sure. The Queen was so nice, although I know I will never live it down.
We got there in plenty of time and got through security just fine. But it soon became obvious to me that I was now old and the times have a-changed. One of the first things I noticed while watching our plane being prepared was that most of the ground crew looked like they had just returned to work from shooting a Kid Rock video and still others may have been at an X-Games event. Where once I watched guys in smart service-type uniforms waving their fluorescent signal lights, I now saw dudes in baggy pants, dreads, and Phish t-shirts whipping around in baggage trucks and refueling planes. Biased on my part to be sure, as here I was complaining about the dress code to which I had to defer, but I still say I'd rather it look like Air Force personnel were prepping my plane than wiggers.
Likewise, I would like to think some former USAF guys are flying the plane. Our 'equipment' out of OKC was one of those Embraer RJ things (aka a flying pencil) and it was full and cramped. I hate those little things. So, we're getting ready to leave and our pilot gets on and he sounds like he's 15. He tells us he's Matt and our co-pilot is Chris. I'm sorry, 'Matt and Chris' sound like two dudes cruising around in a tricked out Mustang, not flying me to Chicago. I want 'Robert and Edward' or better yet, 'Walter and Jack'.
So we start our takeoff and just as we get airborne, SGK squeals, "This is awesome! I've never been this happy in my life!" So, that was worth it. Then the flight attendant announces snacks can be purchased, including cashews for $2. SGK is deathly allergic to cashews. So I turned to YHWH, "did you bring her epipen?" Neither one of us brought it. We sort of panicked because she could die before they could land the plane if she'd gotten a small whiff of cashew dust. So YHWH asked the attendant if she could refrain from serving them, and she didn't want to do it, but she said she would (she even admitted frankly that since they are something the airline makes money on, she isn't allowed to not sell them). It's American Eagle by the way, for anyone who needs to know that they still serve things that can kill people. When we switched to American Airlines in Chicago, we told the crew and they laughed and said they quit serving allergens a long time ago and thought it was stupid for American Eagle to serve them. By the way, on the last leg of our return trip we were back on American Eagle and we told them ahead of time about the allergy and the attendant refused to refrain from selling cashews and said, "We've already told people they can have them! We can't tell them they can't have them now!" Once again, folks that's American Eagle. So, we just begged people around us to not eat their cashews if at all possible and thankfully the three people who purchased a snack pack agreed not to eat their cashews.
Once in Chicago, we had 10 minutes to change planes, which was great. But upon arrival at our gate we learned that rain in the east had cause a ripple effect in the traffic pattern and we were pushed back almost two hours. No problem. You can kill a few hours in the airport. But then we get this phone call. YHWH's folks were letting us know to come straight to their room for a champagne and cheese meet-and-greet in their suite so that the two families can get acquainted. Excuse me, aren't we already going to two weddings, a dinner and a reception? Besides, we already had plans to take the girls to a theme restaurant like Hard Rock or Jekyll and Hyde that first night. So we kicked our dread up a notch there in Chicago.
Eventually, we get to board our flight to LaGuardia, but since the traffic jam still existed on the east coast and an arrival needed our gate, we got to sit on the apron for about an hour and a half waiting to taxi! In front of us was a middle-aged couple from Milwacky who were apparently making their first trip without the kids and their first big weekend getaway to New York. What great fortune befell them as they found themselves seated next to a blowhard who, though not a New yorker himself, knew everything about the city. The Gotham Bloviate regaled them with tales of the wonderous nightlife, rundowns on each and every neighborhood and what to do there. On and on for the four hours it took to get to NYC. All the while the corduroy sport-coated male kept insturcting his secretary/wife to "write that down" whenever the Gotham Bloviate imparted tell of a particularly shiny gem. The Gotham Bloviate was not actually that onoxious by nature, thankfully, and what struck me most was the apparent unpreparedness of this seemingly uptight couple. Do they not have libraries in Milwacky? Or bookstores? Was it that hard to find a guidebook? I thought they might have just been playing nice, but they seemed really uneducated on the subject.
We finally made our approach to LaGuardia about 2.5 hours late, but the remnants of that bad weather were still lingering and our MD-80 was thrown about quite a bit. Even I, who likes rollercoasters and flying, had to lean back, close my eyes and clinch my stomach. We had a glimmer of hope tho, because we were sure the delay made us too late for the soiree. I mean, it was 5:30 and we still had to get over to Midtown in the middle of Friday rush hour. Meanwhile the elite members of my wife's family were attending the only one of the three weddings that 'counted' - the ceremony conducted by the family priest up in Westchester County.
We thought by arriving at our exclusive digs at 7:00 we would've missed the event, but no, they were just arriving themselves. I got through it OK because SGK kind of took over the event by regaling the Argentine Contingent (the bride's familia) with her knowledge of the Pampas and gauchos and also running through two of her karate workouts. As I said, we had promised the girls a trip to a theme restaurant, but YHWH's brother invited us to 'a little Italian place' for dinner and we were much encouraged to go along by the grownups. So, YHWH and I went with her sibs and the bride's to the home of the $30 bowl of spaghetti. In case you're wondering, yours truly did step up to the plate and charm the three people at the table previously unknown to him. He was quickly able to discern their passions and vocations and was able to converse across a wide breadth of topics. And dinner cost $454.
When you go to New York you learn quickly that you will be constantly fleeced of your cash. I'm really not a cheapskate, but it does get burdensome after a while. We had to pay to get our bags to the street at the airport. We had to tip the driver who took us to the New York Athletic Club, we had to tip the bellhop to take them in and the guy who took them to our room. At this 'little place' we had to tip the maitre d', then the wine guy and of course the waitress and the bathroom attendant and the coat check lady. I was constantly handing out dollar bills the whole weekend.
After dinner we collected the kids and returned to our little room. First let me say I am very grateful to the bride's family for putting us up for the weekend. The room didn't cost me a dime so I'm not complaining. But I was shocked that the rooms were so small. We had two double beds with about a foot on either side and a foot between them. There was not much decor to speak of and if I had been knocked unconscious out on the street and awakened in that room I would have guessed I was in a Clarion or Best Western. Not what I would've expected for something in the $400 a night range off Central Park. But like I said, the price was right.
So that was our first night. I'm shutting up now.
Tuesday, October 17, 2006
Fairy Tales Can Come True, It Can Happen To You
I felt obliged to say that the main reason this wedding thing is annoying me is because it's just so overblown. It's true we all tend to place ourselves at the center of the universe and assume that our way is best, and I am no exception. But I think my sister's wedding is the standard for how it ought to be done.
When she got engaged at 18, my parents weren't really prepared for it. I'm not sure how they felt emotionally, but financially, we were pretty well broke. We always were, but this was the high inflation, no jobs malaise Jimmy Carter presided over and it was pretty tough on the lower middle class.
But they were in love, and so it was going to happen. My sister visited a dozen venues to try and get the best possible value for the event. It was looking like it would have to be a dank church basement until, on a lark, she decide to try Tulsa's swankiest hotel - The Mayo. The Mayo had entertained Tulsa's oilmen and first families for decades and my sister didn't think she could afford it but she wanted to at least dream about having it there. So, she went in to talk to the events person there and after telling her story and chatting awhile, the hotelier said, "You know, Mr. Oilman just canceled a major event in our Crystal Ballroom and I'm really angry about it. I've been thinking about not refunding his money. If you can have your wedding on the 15th, we'll let him rent the Crystal Ballroom for you." And so it was that my sister was married in a place that looked like something out of Beauty and the Beast.
But that wasn't the only thing. We still had to produce this thing. My mom got a dress at a consignment shop and refashioned it into a wedding dress. My mom made the five-tiered wedding cake. She made the sheet cakes. She made the petit-fours and canapes. The groom's mother and sister hand made hundreds of fresh mini-tamales. They made five gallons of frozen margaritas with tequila they got from a guy who owed them a favor. The groom's cousin brought his mariachi band to play. All the young adults in the cult made and hung the decorations. We borrowed all the tables and punch bowls and everything else. Our whole community contributed something to this wedding. To this day, when I run into people from the cult they ask me if my sister's still married. They're relieved to hear she is and say, 25 years later, "That's the best wedding I've ever been to."
Sadly, I don't remember much of it. I spent the first half of the thing practicing heavy underage drinking and the second half curled up in a ball on the bathroom floor of the bridal suite.
So forgive me if I am grumbling about spending hundreds of thousands on a wedding for two people old enough to have kids in high school. It's just not my way.
By the way this will be Killer's fifth gig as flower girl. As you will see below, she is carrying on the family business. For I was a veteran ringbearer, having borne rings to at least a half-dozen nuptials (click for larger):
When she got engaged at 18, my parents weren't really prepared for it. I'm not sure how they felt emotionally, but financially, we were pretty well broke. We always were, but this was the high inflation, no jobs malaise Jimmy Carter presided over and it was pretty tough on the lower middle class.
But they were in love, and so it was going to happen. My sister visited a dozen venues to try and get the best possible value for the event. It was looking like it would have to be a dank church basement until, on a lark, she decide to try Tulsa's swankiest hotel - The Mayo. The Mayo had entertained Tulsa's oilmen and first families for decades and my sister didn't think she could afford it but she wanted to at least dream about having it there. So, she went in to talk to the events person there and after telling her story and chatting awhile, the hotelier said, "You know, Mr. Oilman just canceled a major event in our Crystal Ballroom and I'm really angry about it. I've been thinking about not refunding his money. If you can have your wedding on the 15th, we'll let him rent the Crystal Ballroom for you." And so it was that my sister was married in a place that looked like something out of Beauty and the Beast.
But that wasn't the only thing. We still had to produce this thing. My mom got a dress at a consignment shop and refashioned it into a wedding dress. My mom made the five-tiered wedding cake. She made the sheet cakes. She made the petit-fours and canapes. The groom's mother and sister hand made hundreds of fresh mini-tamales. They made five gallons of frozen margaritas with tequila they got from a guy who owed them a favor. The groom's cousin brought his mariachi band to play. All the young adults in the cult made and hung the decorations. We borrowed all the tables and punch bowls and everything else. Our whole community contributed something to this wedding. To this day, when I run into people from the cult they ask me if my sister's still married. They're relieved to hear she is and say, 25 years later, "That's the best wedding I've ever been to."
Sadly, I don't remember much of it. I spent the first half of the thing practicing heavy underage drinking and the second half curled up in a ball on the bathroom floor of the bridal suite.
So forgive me if I am grumbling about spending hundreds of thousands on a wedding for two people old enough to have kids in high school. It's just not my way.
By the way this will be Killer's fifth gig as flower girl. As you will see below, she is carrying on the family business. For I was a veteran ringbearer, having borne rings to at least a half-dozen nuptials (click for larger):
Sunday, October 15, 2006
They Make No Mention of the Beauty of Decay
The wedding continues to dominate our lives for better or worse. We were scheduled to have an all day shopping junket on Sairdy. YHWH, Killer and C. F. Kats are all required to have small, black, formal clutches; I needed a jacket in which I can stroll around the hotel; everyone needed all-weather formal coats; I needed two dress shirts; and it was suggested I get a sweater and some 'nice' long-sleeved shirts.
So, like I said, it was supposed to be an all day affair. But on Sairdy morning, YHWH tells me to just get Killer out of the house all day - she wanted to clean the house. That's bad. That is an ominous sign. Cleaning has psychological implications. Where I have resigned myself to my fate and am now given to mocking the whole thing, she has obviously not gotten to that point.
So, I took Killer to the Zoo. We were there 4.5 hours. I have never been to the Zoo that long in one session in my life. It was great weather and Killer brought a blank journal and declared herself a naturalist. We had to stop and draw loads of plants, flowers, and animals. We read and discussed every plaque. Here's a page from the journal including some of our team work:
After that we decided to hit the northside thrift stores. I thought it would be a nice touch to wear thirft store merch to our snooty events. We didn't have too much success, but we had a lot of fun. We did find one small velvet clutch for 98 cents, though. Finally, we went to Big Lots to get some decent Halloween dex. YHWH tends to decorate with Fall things, but frankly SGK and I never found a cornucopia to be particularly terrifying. I find the glow-in-the-dark velvet skeleton hanging on the doorways of my youth (pre-cult, of course) to be the standard. So Killer picked out some stuff and here are a couple of examples of the result:
The strung-up skeleton has been dubbed Carl by Killer. He actually is very scary out there, especially when a slight breeze makes him sway a little bit.
No word when we'll actually get around to buying all that stuff...
We've also started our Halloween season movie-watching. C. F. Kats prefers the psychological thrillers to slashers, so we have selected accoridngly. We got our film critic friend with the exhaustive DVD library to hook us up with some good ones:
Experiment in Terror
Tale of Two Sisters
Cape Fear (original)
Black Sunday
Planet of the Vampires
Peeping Tom
Carnival of Souls
M
Cat People
Lady in White
Diabolique (original French one)
Cape Fear is still so creepy, among the few that consistently get to me. Talking about the Mitchum-Peck version, of course. One of the key components of it's success of course is in what it doesn't say or depict. They use semantics to lead you to a certain point and then allow you to define (ala 1984) what your own brand of hell might be.
So, like I said, it was supposed to be an all day affair. But on Sairdy morning, YHWH tells me to just get Killer out of the house all day - she wanted to clean the house. That's bad. That is an ominous sign. Cleaning has psychological implications. Where I have resigned myself to my fate and am now given to mocking the whole thing, she has obviously not gotten to that point.
So, I took Killer to the Zoo. We were there 4.5 hours. I have never been to the Zoo that long in one session in my life. It was great weather and Killer brought a blank journal and declared herself a naturalist. We had to stop and draw loads of plants, flowers, and animals. We read and discussed every plaque. Here's a page from the journal including some of our team work:
After that we decided to hit the northside thrift stores. I thought it would be a nice touch to wear thirft store merch to our snooty events. We didn't have too much success, but we had a lot of fun. We did find one small velvet clutch for 98 cents, though. Finally, we went to Big Lots to get some decent Halloween dex. YHWH tends to decorate with Fall things, but frankly SGK and I never found a cornucopia to be particularly terrifying. I find the glow-in-the-dark velvet skeleton hanging on the doorways of my youth (pre-cult, of course) to be the standard. So Killer picked out some stuff and here are a couple of examples of the result:
The strung-up skeleton has been dubbed Carl by Killer. He actually is very scary out there, especially when a slight breeze makes him sway a little bit.
No word when we'll actually get around to buying all that stuff...
We've also started our Halloween season movie-watching. C. F. Kats prefers the psychological thrillers to slashers, so we have selected accoridngly. We got our film critic friend with the exhaustive DVD library to hook us up with some good ones:
Experiment in Terror
Tale of Two Sisters
Cape Fear (original)
Black Sunday
Planet of the Vampires
Peeping Tom
Carnival of Souls
M
Cat People
Lady in White
Diabolique (original French one)
Cape Fear is still so creepy, among the few that consistently get to me. Talking about the Mitchum-Peck version, of course. One of the key components of it's success of course is in what it doesn't say or depict. They use semantics to lead you to a certain point and then allow you to define (ala 1984) what your own brand of hell might be.
Friday, October 13, 2006
Me and You and a Dog Named Boo
The countdown is on. Will the flower girl's ballerina shoes be back from the dying place in time for us to schlep them to NYC? This wedding deal is just getting downright farcical. When I bitched the other day about it, I didn't even spill the half of it. I'm reserved to tell all of it, because there are some out there who probably love weddings and cry and all that and others who don't balk at the arcanery of it all. But you know what - get your own blog.
The best we bumpkins can figure out the current running total of this affair is nearing the GDP of Togo. You could relocate the entire population of Tuvalu to gated communities in Sydney for what is being shelled out. I mean, I'm no Commie, they can spend their money any way they want. The frivolity of it all just galls me, though. Like Killer's dress - we had to take her to a tailor here who took her measurements and called a tailor in NYC who worked out the pattern and called the tailor here to explain how to make the dress in OKC. And then we had to buy ballerina slippers and have them dyed to match the dress. The dress is white. The shoes are white. The room is dim. And the $500 dollar dress is going to have petit fours smeared down the front of it in beautiful pastel hues before 'I do'. Then there's things like 300 people eating dinner at $175 a plate. And there will be three dinners. We're talking over a quarter-mil here, y'all.
It all reminds of the first week of World War I. You remember. France didn't want to defend Serbia, but they thought it looked bad, so they called up a few troops. Then Germany didn't really want to fight France, but they didn't want to look bad for leaving Austria hanging. Then Russia really didn't want to fight, but they needed some French loans. Unfortunately for everyone, Germany (as usual) had a plan. That's how this happened. When the engagement was announced, we automatically told ourselves we weren't going. Then we thought it would look bad, so only YHWH was going to go. But then, like Germans, they said they had to have Killer be the flower girl. This is because she is the only girl they know. I am pretty sure that in the two years we have known the bride she has never once spoken to Killer. Ever. And they want her to be in this thing. Meanwhile, the couple act like they don't even want all this. So, nobody wants this thing to happen and no one wants to go, yet no one will speak up to stop it. It's World War I, people.
We told all this to a friend who plays for the other team and she said, "Married heterosexuals with no kids are the most annoying people on Earth. Except for the ones with no kids and a dog." That's not me, I'm just telling you what she said.
O course, the really sick thing is that I don't see this thing lasting. I always say that, though. Voice of experience. I say you go to the courthouse and sign some papers, put all the wedding money in a CD and then in five years if you're still together you can have a giant party.
Of course, the good thing is that usually things aren't as bad as you fret them out to be, so I'm sure I'll be fine. I'm thinking holed up in the room with ESPN and the mini-bar will do the trick. Yes, I would go all the way to NYC to do that.
The best we bumpkins can figure out the current running total of this affair is nearing the GDP of Togo. You could relocate the entire population of Tuvalu to gated communities in Sydney for what is being shelled out. I mean, I'm no Commie, they can spend their money any way they want. The frivolity of it all just galls me, though. Like Killer's dress - we had to take her to a tailor here who took her measurements and called a tailor in NYC who worked out the pattern and called the tailor here to explain how to make the dress in OKC. And then we had to buy ballerina slippers and have them dyed to match the dress. The dress is white. The shoes are white. The room is dim. And the $500 dollar dress is going to have petit fours smeared down the front of it in beautiful pastel hues before 'I do'. Then there's things like 300 people eating dinner at $175 a plate. And there will be three dinners. We're talking over a quarter-mil here, y'all.
It all reminds of the first week of World War I. You remember. France didn't want to defend Serbia, but they thought it looked bad, so they called up a few troops. Then Germany didn't really want to fight France, but they didn't want to look bad for leaving Austria hanging. Then Russia really didn't want to fight, but they needed some French loans. Unfortunately for everyone, Germany (as usual) had a plan. That's how this happened. When the engagement was announced, we automatically told ourselves we weren't going. Then we thought it would look bad, so only YHWH was going to go. But then, like Germans, they said they had to have Killer be the flower girl. This is because she is the only girl they know. I am pretty sure that in the two years we have known the bride she has never once spoken to Killer. Ever. And they want her to be in this thing. Meanwhile, the couple act like they don't even want all this. So, nobody wants this thing to happen and no one wants to go, yet no one will speak up to stop it. It's World War I, people.
We told all this to a friend who plays for the other team and she said, "Married heterosexuals with no kids are the most annoying people on Earth. Except for the ones with no kids and a dog." That's not me, I'm just telling you what she said.
O course, the really sick thing is that I don't see this thing lasting. I always say that, though. Voice of experience. I say you go to the courthouse and sign some papers, put all the wedding money in a CD and then in five years if you're still together you can have a giant party.
Of course, the good thing is that usually things aren't as bad as you fret them out to be, so I'm sure I'll be fine. I'm thinking holed up in the room with ESPN and the mini-bar will do the trick. Yes, I would go all the way to NYC to do that.
Monday, October 09, 2006
Goin' Home Where the New York City Winters Aren't Bleedin' Me
So, this wedding is killing me. My brother-in-law is scheduled to wed a woman from New York in a few weeks. The blessed couple lives in Oklahoma as does all of his family and so we are all flying to New York, we're all staying in an exclusive Midtown private club, and eating at beyond expensive Midtown restaurants. It isn't going to cost us anything (at least the major stuff). So, what's my problem, right? Why wouldn't I want a most-expenses-paid trip to New York? God knows I could never afford to do it on my own.
The easiest explanation is that it just violates my principles. First of all, they're like 37 years old. When you're that age and you've already been living together and you just bought a half-million dollar house for the two of you, it's an affront to me to have to buy you a shower gift and a wedding gift. On top of that, they're are already married. Her mother would not tolerate a wedding which was not performed by her priest in New York. So my b-i-l had to convert and then the priest said that the laws in New York make it difficult to get married if your from out of state, so they have to get married here first and then he will reenact what has already been done up there. But no one can go to that but immediate family (which inexplicably we are not part of), so they are having a third ceremony at the private club. That all makes me vomit. If you're that old, you should freaking go to Las Freakin' Vegas.
This is all in addition to the incredible hassle of it all. First of all flying period is a hassle. Flying in and out of NYC is ten times the hassle. Getting to Midtown from the airport is a hassle. The exclusive place where we are staying has a sadly arcane dress code which bans denim, sneakers (sic), and t-shirts. Jacket and tie must be worn outside the rooms at all times. So I have to wear a g*dda*n suit. Twice. I do not wear suits. I have one oldish one and I have had to go on a crash diet to get into it (I have done it, though).
Then I found out that because I am a librarian I am to be seated with an editor from Doubleday, who is closely associated with a huge bestselling author. Ok, this is like seating a batboy with a lumberjack. Even worse, my wife is an English teacher. And she hates that author. I think the word she used was 'insipid'. I thought you weren't supposed to sit similar people or couples together. For one thing, librarians ought to be seating chart wildcards. We can talk about anything; we have something in common with everyone.
Now, you're probably like my other b-i-l who said, "Lighten up, man. It's just a party!" But I hate parties. I loathe parties. And I don't understand why extroverts are so intolerant. I realize the obvious answer is, duh, they're extroverted. But why do they take something from introverts or push them? We don't make any demands on them at all except to leave us alone. All they have to do is...nothing.
The final nail in the coffin was this weekend when the celebrant performed one of his occasional but regular verbal assaults on me. He has a drinking problem and when he drinks and gets with his brother, they like to pick on me. Being an introvert, I'm an easy target I guess. They're very cowardly and only do this when there are two of them and usual other people around who I would rather not see the swath of verbal destruction I can leave behind. This time it was my father-in-law and my wife. I'm just not going to retaliate in front of their family members, I could only lose. It might sound strange, but I just won't do it. They don't really say anything offensive; in fact if I were to recount it you would say it was no big deal. But it's the spirit in which it is done that makes it ridiculous. So instead of telling the guy off I'm suffering through his freakin' wedding.
So, I'm thinking about small ways I can screw things up. I think for one thing I'm going to really drag out my drawl and say 'goll-lee'and 'durn' and 'dad-blamed'. And talk about all the 'oll' we have on our spread. Failing that, I'm going to be really, really honest to everyone I meet. And if anyone says anything, all I have to say is, "Lighten up, man. It's just a party!"
I'm getting too old for this sh*t.
The easiest explanation is that it just violates my principles. First of all, they're like 37 years old. When you're that age and you've already been living together and you just bought a half-million dollar house for the two of you, it's an affront to me to have to buy you a shower gift and a wedding gift. On top of that, they're are already married. Her mother would not tolerate a wedding which was not performed by her priest in New York. So my b-i-l had to convert and then the priest said that the laws in New York make it difficult to get married if your from out of state, so they have to get married here first and then he will reenact what has already been done up there. But no one can go to that but immediate family (which inexplicably we are not part of), so they are having a third ceremony at the private club. That all makes me vomit. If you're that old, you should freaking go to Las Freakin' Vegas.
This is all in addition to the incredible hassle of it all. First of all flying period is a hassle. Flying in and out of NYC is ten times the hassle. Getting to Midtown from the airport is a hassle. The exclusive place where we are staying has a sadly arcane dress code which bans denim, sneakers (sic), and t-shirts. Jacket and tie must be worn outside the rooms at all times. So I have to wear a g*dda*n suit. Twice. I do not wear suits. I have one oldish one and I have had to go on a crash diet to get into it (I have done it, though).
Then I found out that because I am a librarian I am to be seated with an editor from Doubleday, who is closely associated with a huge bestselling author. Ok, this is like seating a batboy with a lumberjack. Even worse, my wife is an English teacher. And she hates that author. I think the word she used was 'insipid'. I thought you weren't supposed to sit similar people or couples together. For one thing, librarians ought to be seating chart wildcards. We can talk about anything; we have something in common with everyone.
Now, you're probably like my other b-i-l who said, "Lighten up, man. It's just a party!" But I hate parties. I loathe parties. And I don't understand why extroverts are so intolerant. I realize the obvious answer is, duh, they're extroverted. But why do they take something from introverts or push them? We don't make any demands on them at all except to leave us alone. All they have to do is...nothing.
The final nail in the coffin was this weekend when the celebrant performed one of his occasional but regular verbal assaults on me. He has a drinking problem and when he drinks and gets with his brother, they like to pick on me. Being an introvert, I'm an easy target I guess. They're very cowardly and only do this when there are two of them and usual other people around who I would rather not see the swath of verbal destruction I can leave behind. This time it was my father-in-law and my wife. I'm just not going to retaliate in front of their family members, I could only lose. It might sound strange, but I just won't do it. They don't really say anything offensive; in fact if I were to recount it you would say it was no big deal. But it's the spirit in which it is done that makes it ridiculous. So instead of telling the guy off I'm suffering through his freakin' wedding.
So, I'm thinking about small ways I can screw things up. I think for one thing I'm going to really drag out my drawl and say 'goll-lee'and 'durn' and 'dad-blamed'. And talk about all the 'oll' we have on our spread. Failing that, I'm going to be really, really honest to everyone I meet. And if anyone says anything, all I have to say is, "Lighten up, man. It's just a party!"
I'm getting too old for this sh*t.
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